Appreciating Your Mentors

Last week my dad, my first mentor in life, came across some old papers while he was cleaning out his attic. He gave me something that I had forgotten about, but I’m sure glad he kept it all these years. He found the letter to the editor submission of mine that ran in the Harrisburg Patriot News in 2004.

I was feeling on top of the world in 2004 – I had been married two years and Melody and I were enjoying life. I had a decent job, not the dream job, but it supported us, plus we were expecting our first child. I know I didn’t get to where I am without the many amazing people in my life that went out of their way to mentor me. I started writing to some of them to show them I was thankful for them and to let them know that I was thinking of them.

Around this time, I heard my high school football coach was retiring from teaching so I penned the OpEd you see below. I am so fortunate to have had this run in the newspaper, as my coach’s wife said he was so thrilled to see this. Plus, after it ran on a trip home to visit my parents, I paid him a visit and got a big bearhug from him and we spent the day just hanging out and talking. I was fortunate because Coach Lichtel would pass from prostate cancer a few years after, but like all the times we spent together while I was in high school, memories of him will live on just like the life lessons I learned from him.

Make sure your mentors know that you appreciate them.

Patriot News Letter to the Editor as it was written in 2004:

Coach Licthel, thanks for being a role model

Recently I watched a sentimental tribute to Pat Tillman, the NFL player turned Army Ranger. After viewing the televised program, I had no trouble seeing why all of America is mourning the loss of this fallen soldier. It was evident to me that Tillman became the person he was because of the cast of role models that he was associated with while he was maturing.

After the ESPN special, I searched within myself to see what role models can claim responsibility for how I evolved from a young kid running the streets of Mechanicsburg to a mature father-to-be, enjoying a successful home and career life in Pittsburgh. I found some answers fairly quickly with mom and dad leading the pack, but one name surfaced that I hadn’t thought of for some time – Rich Lichtel.

I had known of Coach Lichtel while attending another high school in the area, but it wasn’t until I transferred to Mechanicsburg High School during the tail end of my sophomore year that I had truly come to know who he was.

He is a role model; he is a mentor; he is an educator; he is a hero; he is a friend. He was all these things to me when I was with him on a daily basis.

He was a man that took the extra time to make sure students – and not just football players – were doing OK. He cared about his profession and that was reflected in the kids that came in contact with him. He didn’t make school a place to go because you had to – all students of Mechanicsburg, no matter what social groupings they fell in, liked Coach Lichtel. He made the time to help those that needed help, whether it was lending an ear when a student had some troubles or cheering up a student when he or she needed to smile. He simply did whatever it took to reach the young minds in the school district of Mechanicsburg.

And, oh yeah, he was also a football coach. During the 1980s Mechanicsburg high school was renowned in high school football as a quarterback factory. The school churned out some good ones like the Hakels and the Abners. Producing quality quarterbacks is certainly no coincidence, since Lichtel himself was a remarkable quarterback in his younger years.

Prior to transferring to Mechanicsburg, one thing that excited me about the move was that I, a high school quarterback at the time, was going to receive football knowledge from a proven quarterback player and coach. But the first thing he wanted to do was to get to know me. He didn’t concentrate on instructing me on how to properly play the position, when what I really needed at the time was someone to make the extra time to be there for me.

Transferring high schools, especially in a situation similar to mine where negative labels were thrown on me, is difficult for kids and he didn’t assume any rumors to be true; instead he took the time to understand me. He cared more about the students of Mechanicsburg than winning games.

So, sure the name Rich Lichtel is associated with Mechanicsburg Wildcat football and rightly so. He won some games and a few league titles. He did alright on Friday nights, but that is only a part of his legacy.

I’m sure all of his compiled wins over the years have his name appearing on some elite coaching list in the central Pennsylvania area, if not the state or country yet something tells me he’s just as proud, if not prouder, knowing that there is a lot of mature adults around this country that have him to thank for being a positive role model in their life. I know I would like to thank him.

So while Rich Lichtel is retiring from teaching, but remember that his teachings will never retire. I, like the rest of his former students, plan to instill the values that he taught naturally on a daily basis to my future child. Generations will benefit from his position as a role model.

Enjoy your retirement, Coach Lichtel! And thanks for being a role model in the Mechanicsburg area.

Remembering (& Helping) A Mentor

The benefits of being a mentor are well known. You can position your company, industry, etc. for a better tomorrow as you pass down your knowledge and information to future leaders. I hope that mentors don’t ever feel like it’s a thankless job helping the next generation. Sure, there might not be immediate payback, but being a mentor can be extremely rewarding when the mentor sees the protégé blossom into an industry leader.

I have been extremely blessed when it comes to mentors assisting with my professional development. After the Navy, I enrolled and graduated from the University of Pittsburgh with a dual degree in Journalism and History – not your typical degrees for the construction industry. However, some people saw something and cultivated me to succeed in this industry. There are too many to name, but today I’d like to focus on one individual – Dwight Kuhn.

Dwight saw something in me and always took the extra time to thoroughly explain construction topics to me. We were part of an industry group comprised of experienced leaders that met in the evenings to discuss construction best practices; I was the lone individual who was not an “experienced industry leader,” but I kept good notes and ran good meetings so I was involved. The next day, after our meetings, my head was spinning when I tried to comprehend all the topics we discussed the night before. More often than naught I found myself calling Dwight for an explanation. He always had time for those phone calls.

But the special thing about Dwight was, it wasn’t just me that he spent time with. He really cared about the next generation and getting them engaged. As I mentioned earlier we had a group of current industry leaders that focused on best practices, but to be honest – this book of recommendations was dated and archaic. A few members of this group decided that we needed a complete overhaul. But it was Dwight who made the breakthrough suggestion that we needed: let’s involve the industry’s future in this activity.

From Dwight’s idea we invited young, up-and-coming industry leaders to the table to serve on small task forces that included a few principles from architectural firms and executives from construction companies. I think the small group suggestion made it less intimidating and everyone was engaged. Sure we updated a few best practice recommendations, but more importantly his suggestion may have expedited the development of current leaders from Pittsburgh’s design and construction industry, people like; Sean Sheffler, Associate at LGA Partners; Anastasia (Herk) Dubnicay, Executive Director of ACE Mentor Program of Western PA; Gino Torriero, CEO of Nello Construction; Jen Landau, Project Manager at Landau Building Company; Kristin  Merck, a promising architect who opted to launch a successful photography business; to name a few. Plus, that little scribe who used to hound Dwight for help the morning after meetings is now Executive Director of the Keystone Contractors Association.

Please note, that exercise that grouped young and experienced leaders happened around ten years ago so I’m pretty sure my memory is leaving people off that are really successful today. Sorry. But the one thing I am sure about is that Dwight touched many people in a positive way during his career. We can all show him thanks by participating in the Dwight Kuhn Replenishment Blood Drive, which is this Thursday, November 2, 9:00 AM to 3:00 PM at the Master Builders’ Association. Even if Dwight did not touch you during your career, you can show your support of the mentorship process by giving blood. For more information on this blood drive or on Dwight, please contact Michael Kuhn at mkuhn@jendoco.com.

The reason for this blood drive is that during an annual routine physical in April of 2017, Dwight was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML). AML is a blood and bone marrow cancer that can quickly spread to other parts of the body. To date, Dwight has undergone three treatments of intense chemotherapy and has needed 40 units of blood and 40 units of platelets. His AML is currently in remission, but he has myelodysplastic syndromes, a precursor to AML. He continues to need blood transfusions every two weeks to keep his strength. If you would like to help, visit www.centralbloodbank.org then click “Make an appointment” and search with group code: Z0021025.

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